Photographed on the desert road of Arizona driving to Park City.
In the last days of December I have been reflecting on all that has happened this year and one of the things that stands out to me is my own perception of my life as it is happening...I recognize that I am often too hard on myself to even realize my own accomplishments as they are occurring. This year I was balancing modeling, auditions, photography work, directing a short film, and my passion project - this website. I often felt as though I was always behind at something or that I should be doing more even though my time was maxed out. In hind sight this kind of mindset didn’t necessarily motivate me, if anything I got in my own way. Balancing my creative projects and having a healthy expectations and goals is something I am trying to get the hang of, and I thought it would be a perfect topic to touch upon right before we begin a new year, and the thought of NYE Resolutions kick in.
Instead of making New Years resolutions that are unrealistic, only to be hard on yourself when you don’t accomplish them, here is what I am trying to do:
1) Create a Vision Board & be specific. I like to split mine up into different areas of my life.
- Personal Relationships
I usually write them out and try to be as clear and specific about what I want. Then I find images that go with them that are inspiring. If you have time you can print them out and keep it in a place where you can see it everyday like the inside of a cupboard or closet or above your desk.
2) Set realistic goals. Rather than setting result driven goals set habit driven goals. Not to say you shouldn’t dream big and reach for the sky! I just like to frame them in a way that I can realistically practice and eventually accomplish because timing is something that can often be out of our control.
3) Then Relinguish your expectations. After you have set your goals don’t obsess over them. Any time I have felt the desperation of needing my goals to come true it creates a negative energy that others can usually sense and I find it does not lead to doors opening. Instead focus on all of the things you already have. Focus on what you are grateful for and you will feel an abundance which propels you forward with positive energy.
4) Acknowledge the power of the universe. No matter what you believe in if you are religious or have spiritual beliefs, or you believe in the knowledge of science... somewhere in there I hope you accept that the world - the universe - is much bigger than you, and that many things in the great big world are out of our hands. Thinking about this gives relief to me when I notice myself trying to control every little thing in my life. Being a spiritual person myself I belief that there is a bigger plan for each of us. I often times find that leaning in to what life hands (or throw at) me - “Going with the flow” creates a flowing momentum in my life, as opposed to trying to work against the current or thinking from a victim mentality of “life is unfair”. The universe doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle.
5) Be open to change. I struggle with this a lot. My schedule with work and travel is constantly changing, and so is my fiancées, which you might think would make me more open to change but in the past few years I have craved stability and struggled with accepting change. Over the last 6 months I have made a conscious effort to embrace change when it comes, and trust that things will work out even if it is different from what I had planned. In my experience this has brought about new and different opportunities I couldn’t have imagined.
I hope these tips are helpful to format your new year goals (or if your like me your quarterly or even monthly goals) to design them in a way that set you up for happiness and fullfillment. Focus on the things you have the power to change to enhance your life, and try to direct your energy to the present moment not the future or the past. I hope you look at all that you DO have and focus on that abundance in your life!
Wishing you a full heart, a healthy body & mind, and the most special time with your loved ones over the last few days of the holiday.
Happy New Year!! This year can be whatever you make it.